What are you running from?

Everyone who knows me know that I am always on the go and that I have a very hard time staying in one place for too long. I can have absolutely nothing planned for the day and then all of a sudden I find myself making up things that I have to do. I enjoy being out and about…taking in the crisp smells of nature (don’t judge me)… driving while singing off key….and what’s wrong with a little retail therapy? When I am on the go, I am able to be free and don’t have to think too much about anything.

A friend asked me the other day, “Why can’t you just sit down? What is it that you are running from?” And of course my immediate response was, “I’m not running from anything” because the comment made me feel bad for being a busybody.

But I began questioning the validity of his statement when I later stumbled across a post on the ‘gram’ that read:

“Stop trying to avoid the pain. Feel it, confront it and then let it go! You will never be able to work it away, sleep it away, drink it away, or sex it away. It will never go away until you learn from it and heal from it.”

The post made me feel some type of way and had me telling myself that maybe I am running from something. But what is it? …Because if so, then I need to confront it so that I can begin the healing process.

If you were like me growing up, you talked about how you would have no worries if you ever became rich one day. But do you ever wonder why some people who seem to have everything going for themselves are not happy in their personal lives? Well, like the old saying goes, everything that glitters is not gold and sometimes people find themselves doing things to keep their mind off of their unhappiness. They overwork themselves, but all of the money in the world won’t buy them happiness. They overspend on the latest trends even though all of the clothes in the world won’t make them feel better about themselves. They engage in promiscuous activities knowing that sex is only temporary.

The truth is when I am alone with my thoughts, reality sinks in and all of the pain that I am feeling seems to come rushing in–consuming my mind all at once. Some people suffer from physical pain, and others deal with mental anguish. But what I seem to be running from is the pain that I feel when I look into the mirror and staring back at me is the cold hard truth: I am not where I want to be in life physically, spiritually or professionally. I avoid facing reality because it hurts. I shop and stay on the go to cover up the fact that I haven’t been true to myself. My truth is that sometimes I feel like a failure even though people around me feel like I have accomplished great things. I have been living up to other people’s expectations of me instead of my own. The truth is I’ve grown so content with mediocrity that anything that seems slightly challenging scares me and I stop before even get started.

Now that I have identified the source of my pain, it is time to confront it and make changes. I am making a promise to myself today to make excellence my norm! No more running from my fears or settling for being mediocre.

What are you running from in your life? Maybe you are running from happiness because you don’t feel like you deserve it. Maybe you are running from new opportunities because you are afraid of failing. Are you afraid to love again because every time you open up your heart you are left with deeply cut wounds?

If you find yourself constantly running in an attempt to avoid the pain, I am asking you to identify the issue immediately, confront it, and crush it so that you can begin to live your best life!

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Consistency: The Difference between Success and Failure

Up until today, I have been consistently inconsistent. Why? Probably because I didn’t experience the kind of success that I wanted fast enough. Or maybe because I always seem to convince myself that I will fail before I even begin. I would start a project but never finish, and quit a work out plan after putting in 2 whole days of hard work. I have been putting off attending Grad school for at least 8 years now because–well…because of absolutely no reason at all. I guess it’s just easier to give up when things seem to be a tad bit too difficult.

I love Dewayne “The Rock” Johnson for several reasons. Lawd, have mercy…that is a fine piece of man! Okay but seriously…He’s known as the #BrahmaBull and People’s Champ to WWE fans, but today he is my champion because he couldn’t have said the following words any better: “Success isn’t always about greatness, It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.”

Everyone wasn’t born great and success doesn’t just happen because you’re just that good. It is a process and being consistent is a crucial part of the process. Think about a guy who pursues a woman. She is not going to fall head over heels for him simply because of his looks or his words. This guy has to prove his love for her by being consistent with having those same words match his daily actions.

It’s so easy to complain about how hard the task is instead of “just do[ing] it” in the words of #Nike. But let’s remember that if you really want to do something, you will find a way–and if not, you will find an excuse.

Consistence is the difference between success and failure. Therefore, I am challenging you as well as myself to quit stopping short of the finish line. Focus on being better tomorrow than you were today by working hard every day to stay the course. Be consistent in the gym…consistent at the hobby you picked up this year… Consistent in your relationship…consistent with your children. Consistency shows that we truly value that “thing” that we are working hard at each day, and the end result will be SUCCESS!